For the first 10 months of our marriage, my husband and I tried desperately to conceive. We had been dating for 6 years, played the doting ‘Uncle’ and ‘Aunty’ roles to all of our nieces and nephews, and by the time we were married we were ready for our own. However it wasn’t as simple as we thought it would be. We had two miscarriages, I was diagnosed with a pelvic disorder, and after several months of treatment was told by my specialist to avoid trying for awhile.
When you are at your most vulnerable, life can be very overwhelming. Emotionally – I was down. Mentally – my mind was a battlefield. My thoughts had stretched back to a statement a person had once made to me out of anger, that I would be barren and cursed. Unbeknown to this individual, during our struggle for a child, their words resounded in my mind and weighed down on my heart. Can I take this time to say, there is power in our words. Proverbs 18:21, “The tongue has the power of life and death”. The tongue can either speak life or death into a situation – choose to always speak life over people.
Fast forward to August 2016 and our healthy, bubbly, baby boy has arrived! His Daddy named him Jaden which is Hebrew and means “God has heard”. Every prayer, every cry, every disappointment, every struggle, God heard it all. Despite our circumstances, He surrounded me with everything that would speak life into me. He gave me a husband that loved me through the heartache and friends to do life with that reminded me of His promises, Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”.
Next week we celebrate our 2nd wedding anniversary and there is so much I’m grateful for. Marriage was never intended to be a destination, but a journey continued. As iron sharpens iron, so do the challenges that life throws our way.We often think that staying silent on the struggles we go through makes us stronger, however the sharing of our experiences might just be what another individual needs to draw strength from.
To the wife that is struggling to conceive – hold on to Jeremiah 29:11. To the wife that has lost a baby – take comfort in Psalm 30: 5 “…Weeping may remain for a night, but joy comes in the morning”. When Jaden was placed in my arms the morning he was born, my heart rejoiced; God has heard!